How do you feel when the thought of aging comes up? It fills many with concern, anxiety, and even dread. This is because aging is usually associated with negatives, such as diminished looks, a frail body, memory loss, and chronic diseases.
However, people differ greatly in the way they age. Some enjoy relatively good health, physically and mentally, in their later years. Advances in medicine have also enabled some to treat or control chronic illnesses. In fact, more and more people are living longer and healthier lives.
Nevertheless, whether confronted with age-related problems or not, most people wish to be able to age gracefully.
How can this be done? In part, doing so depends on our attitude and our willingness and ability to adapt to this new phase in life.
BE POSITIVE: As you age, you may experience negative feelings when you remember your youthful vigor and the many things you were once able to do. This is understandable. However, make an effort not to be overcome by those negative feelings. Reading and learning can also make you feel more positive, broadening your horizons.
BE GENEROUS: Make it a practice to share some of your time and resources with others. Generosity begets generosity. When you show love to others, they respond by giving you their love and affection. A generous person creates an atmosphere of warmth and appreciation that others find enjoyable.
BE FRIENDLY: While there are times when you may want to be alone, avoid becoming isolated and withdrawn. Take the initiative to invite friends over occasionally. Friendly people are communicative. But since communication is a two-way street, you need to make it a point to be good company. Show personal interest in others. Remember, people enjoy being around good listeners—those who show empathy and interest in others, who give a word of commendation at the right time, and who have a sense of humor.
BE THANKFUL: When receiving help, show appreciation for the attention. Expressions of thankfulness help to cultivate good relationships. Above all, be thankful for life itself.
With the right attitude coupled with willingness to adapt, it is possible to age gracefully.
Alicia Roopnaraine is a Psychologist. You can send questions or comments to her at aliciaroopnaraine@gmail.com
