Managing relationships can be rocky particularly when they involve more than two parties. Marriages often fit into this complex web as they don’t just bring two people together, but two families, along with each person’s own relationship dynamics with either the husband or the wife.
While the richness of having big families lends itself to support, guidance and wisdom, it is not short on natural chaos and conflict. Differences over childcare assistance, financial help, parenting styles, and family traditions among other things all tend to take centre stage when these unions are formed and swell with children in tow. Some marriages, like mine, tend to sometimes not reveal the full extent of how complex these relationships can get either because parties live far from each other, do not speak the same language, or there is an undeniable effort to ensure these relations are accommodating as possible because one partner doesn’t have the same close family ties as the other.