“If I could turn back the hands of time, I would not be married to the same man. It is not that I don’t love him or that he treats me really bad, but what we don’t realise as women is most times when we marry a man we are also married to their family.
“This is not something I would discuss with me husband because I know he would feel bad, but that is how I feel right now. I don’t feel so all the time, so I am venting to you. I just want to vent because it is too much.”
There was frustration in the voice of this married mother of three as she spoke to me recently. We were just having a casual conversation and it somehow got to us discussing marriage. When I told her I wanted to use part of the conversation in this space she was sceptical and begged that I ensure that nothing could identify her.