“Sometimes I does really can’t decide because I understand, yeah, that I have to put my children first but then again how it can be selfish for me to want to at least get some joy out of life. I does work hard day and night, just to try and provide for me and them children and a lot of time is not enough.
“I going to work and coming home and then going to work again. That is all I do in this life and sometimes I does just feel so lonely and I does want to have somebody in me life. I not telling no lie that is how I does feel.”
The words of a single divorced mother, who, years after she has separated from her former husband, has not been in a long-standing relationship. It is not for lack of trying; in fact, maybe she has tried too hard. Whatever it is, the relationships she has tried have not worked out and she has taken some flak from her relatives for exposing her children to multiple men. I recently had a conversation with her in an effort to understand how she feels.