Childless people navigating friendships with people who have children can be a prickly issue. It can also become such a lonely game where no one actually knows the rules but still somehow expectations are there when a heavily dependent player aka the new baby is added to the team.
Even when we say our children won’t change us or we promise to support our friends wholesomely in the same way as prior to children, nothing really goes as planned. And, as expected, annoyance is always rife in both camps and understandably so.
As much as I myself like and adore the babies of my friends I would be lying if I didn’t say I miss the old them and our relationship. The spontaneity, the planning with ease that didn’t have to revolve around nap times and the one where I honestly felt heard and not particularly distracted by a happy-toes toddler.