A big part of socialising often involves eating or drinking out and as opposed to intimate home settings which usually tend to see the guests guarding their behaviour and respecting social cues because of the on my turf like nature of the social meetup. However social gatherings that take place in shared spaces require the same amount of etiquette, even though different in nature. The common denominator still involves being in the company of someone else where other factors like money and time play an even more integral part in the experience for all. Therefore, it’s worth reflecting on the little things that can potentially throw off the experience for your company.
Timing
Time is money. It really is. Taxis cost. Time off from work cost, and even more if you are self-employed. I get that Caribbean people generally believe punctuality is just a construct to be ignored and sure we can do that for the most part when we are on our own. Unless there is mutual understanding of what is acceptable for the other person, show up on time and for the sake of good manners if you are running late drop a message. Being treated as if your effort isn’t valued or warrant such basic social cues can really sour things in the long run.
Chewing
In all honesty this is a slightly difficult one for me and if it weren’t for my husband nudging me everyone would definitely be slightly aware of what I ordered. Writing this out loud allows me to feel how much of a turn off this could be. No one needs to see you chew your food or listen to play by play sounds of you enjoying it. Not only is it disgusting and annoying but it takes away from the other person’s experience and possibly yours too as this doesn’t really gel with mindful eating for better digestion.
The tab
Depending on culture sometimes picking up the tab is serious business to the point where people get annoyed for not being allowed to cover the bill individually. However, regardless of people’s approach to how the bill should be handled, I think courtesy of offering should always be made even if your contribution would be put to the side. Besides, inflation is at an all-time high, and no one should be leaving any place feeling like they were overridden. Additionally, in group settings be mindful of your order in comparison to others. It is unfair to recklessly order and expect orders to split straight down the middle.
Phones
I love the restaurants and bars that don’t issue WIFI passwords and force you to talk. If you have accepted to have company, try to sidebar all other engagements. There is nothing more annoying than trying to enjoy an evening out with someone on their phone. There is nothing more rude than asking a person to constantly repeat themselves because it feels like they are wilfully determining you as a non-important factor.
With that being said, keep in mind that etiquette is for any and everywhere at all times even when we may feel as if we navigate this world alone.
